Attracting Abuse after a Divorce or Breakup
Many times when a person goes through a divorce or the breakup of a relationship they will
subconsciously seek out and attract people into their lives who will abuse them.
The reason for this is that the loss of this relationship causes a person to unknowingly revert back to
infancy and it triggers the destructive beliefs that were created at that time. A person will find themselves
either with an abusive significant other or an abusive room mate. They may even somehow attract
someone in their lives that they’ll see on a regular basis that will abuse them.
Some of the core beliefs that cause this are beliefs such as (just to name a few):
• I deserve to be abused;
• I don’t deserve love;
• I deserve to be neglected (or worse);
• I don’t deserve to be happy;
• I deserve to be punished; or
• I’m a victim.
These beliefs will manifest themselves in the form of attracting abuse into your life.
If you find yourself in this situation, (as I and many people that I know have) your first step is to realize what’
s going on. You are acting up beliefs created by infant trauma caused by CIO. Recognize the fact that you
don’t “have” to hold on to those beliefs.
And most importantly, GET YOURSELF OUT OF THE ABUSIVE SITUATION NO MATTER HOW “RIGHT” IT
FEELS! This is what needs to be done for the short term in order to protect yourself.
For the long term, it’s important for you to keep in mind that you’ve experienced damage from the CIO. It’s
going to be vitally important for you to find tools that will allow you to manage your beliefs, including the
discreation (releasing or deletion) of the ones that are causing you to create abuse in your life.
subconsciously seek out and attract people into their lives who will abuse them.
The reason for this is that the loss of this relationship causes a person to unknowingly revert back to
infancy and it triggers the destructive beliefs that were created at that time. A person will find themselves
either with an abusive significant other or an abusive room mate. They may even somehow attract
someone in their lives that they’ll see on a regular basis that will abuse them.
Some of the core beliefs that cause this are beliefs such as (just to name a few):
• I deserve to be abused;
• I don’t deserve love;
• I deserve to be neglected (or worse);
• I don’t deserve to be happy;
• I deserve to be punished; or
• I’m a victim.
These beliefs will manifest themselves in the form of attracting abuse into your life.
If you find yourself in this situation, (as I and many people that I know have) your first step is to realize what’
s going on. You are acting up beliefs created by infant trauma caused by CIO. Recognize the fact that you
don’t “have” to hold on to those beliefs.
And most importantly, GET YOURSELF OUT OF THE ABUSIVE SITUATION NO MATTER HOW “RIGHT” IT
FEELS! This is what needs to be done for the short term in order to protect yourself.
For the long term, it’s important for you to keep in mind that you’ve experienced damage from the CIO. It’s
going to be vitally important for you to find tools that will allow you to manage your beliefs, including the
discreation (releasing or deletion) of the ones that are causing you to create abuse in your life.
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